Creating your adoption profile book can be intimidating. How can you REALLY show your personality, values, and family through pictures and text?
The agency we worked with asked us to create a profile book about our family to share with expectant mothers. This seems to be a common practice with most agencies in the US.
Knowing this would be how we would match with expectant parents, I wanted our book to stand out and show off our personalities.
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I did searched online forever, looking at examples, and making lists as I put our book together. Creating our profile was hard work, but our book turned out great.
I felt like our book truly highlighted the personality and values in our family.
We matched within three months of being active.
Our daughter’s birth mom said she knew we were the ones as soon as she saw the first few pages of our profile book.
Creating your adoption profile book isn’t about changing your personality or trying to be what you think someone else wants. It’s about finding a way to tell someone you have never met everything about you.
Every expectant mother or father going through a matching process looks for something different, so when creating your profile book, stay true to yourself and your family.
USSE mixbook to create your adoption profile book
I highly suggest using Mixbook when creating your adoption profile book. We used them to create our profile book and I was thrilled with the quality.
With Mixbook, you have the choice between a hard cover or paperback book. We chose the paperback because it cost slightly less and was much easier to ship to different agencies.
Also, I heard Mixbook would email a PDF version of your book after you made a purchase. And they did!
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8 tips for creating your profile book
1. Letter to Expectant Mom/Parents
Include a short letter at the beginning of your book to introduce yourselves.
I suggest you begin with a simple “Hello,” because sometimes the expectant mom and dad will be at the book.
In this section, we briefly described ourselves and our reason for choosing adoption.
I did not want this to be long, because we planned to write specific individual letters to expectant parents when possible.
2. Bullet Lists
Include a short list about anything you like to do. You could center this in a page and include pictures of you in action around the list.
We made this section more about our hobbies and what we do for fun, and talked about our jobs on another page.
Remember, many expectant moms have multiple books to look through, so stay away from long paragraphs when possible.
3. Favorite Things
Add a list of your favorite things. My husband and I both chose random topics and included our favorites for each category.
We included this on our About Me page, along with a short paragraph about where we are from, our jobs, and family.
You can include fun and random facts here to show off who you are as an individual. These little touches will help you connect to the right expectant parents.
4. Family Traditions
We included two pages about different traditions we have in our family. For each one, we had a few pictures and a couple sentences explaining what we do.
Our family values tradition, so we wanted to include examples of special things we do. Sharing traditions can also help you connect with someone viewing your book.
Be descriptive, but keep it concise. Use at least 16 or 18 point font to so the text is easy to read.
5. Posed and Candid Pictures
As I started to work on our book, I collected a ton of pictures. I asked my mom, sister, and everyone I could think of to send me pictures of our family.
I tried as many ‘natural’ pictures as possible to show off our personalities and hobbies.
You might have to pose for some ‘candid’ pictures.
Because I wanted to included specific things about us, we had to stage some of our pictures.
For example, my husband and I always stay in and play board games on New Year’s Eve. Since it’s only us two, we have zero pictures from NYE. So we decided to stage a picture of us playing board games.
Think about the fun things you and your family do together and include those in your book, even if you have to recreate moments.
6. Pet Photos
If you have pets, of course you want to include them in your book. They are family too.
A friend of ours suggested to include pictures of our dogs looking as friendly as possible. So I made sure to show them with other people and kids.
I included some pictures of only our dogs too, but wanted to others to see their loving personalities. Even if you write about how sweet your pets are, it’s best to show it through a picture.
7. Involve Everyone
This was my favorite page of our book. Our families have always been supportive and involved, so we wanted to include them in the creation of our book.
We asked our friends and family to include a small note to our future son/daughter in the book.
It could be about anything, but many of them wrote about what they looked forward to doing with them. We loved including our family in the process.
This also showed how much love we had to share as an entire family.
Suggestion: Throughout your book, refer to the baby as “your child” or “your baby.” This accurately refers to the baby at this time and keeps your book respectful.
8. Keep It Simple
After you finish your book, review it to ensure everything makes sense and is easy to read.
Some of the example books my agency provided us were so long and wordy, I didn’t even bother reading them.
Most people skim when reading longer texts, so try to use phrases, captions, and bullet points throughout your book.
Also, go through and check and check and check the spelling and grammar. It’s so easy to overlook something simple, especially when you have spent hours on your book.
As you finish up your book, don’t over think everything. If you want to include a picture/paragraph/story, then do it.
The right match is out there for you, so most importantly, create your book in a way to best show off your family.
**Requesting a PDF of your book from Mixbook**
Mixbook will send you a PDF of your profile book after you have made your purchase (at the time we made ours in August 2018, they were still doing this).
After complete your purchase, start a chat with customer service and ask for a PDF of your book. They will tell you they don’t offer this service, but then tell them you need it for your adoption profile.
When I told them it was for adoption, they happily processed my request and e-mailed me a PDF.
If you’re like me and want a checklist including everything here and more, you can download one from my resource library. Complete the form below for access.
If you have any questions or would like suggestions when making your book, I would love to help.
Shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and we can connect.